Green’s Dictionary of Slang

bondage and discipline, a sexual ‘speciality’, thus B&D-er, a practitioner.

a.1970		G.D. Bartell Group Sex 80: [personal ad.] I like all indoor sports except B and D [Simes:DLSS].
1972		B. Rodgers Queens’ Vernacular.
1974		J. Lahr Hot to Trot 80: ‘B and D?’ ‘Bondage and Discipline. I need it.’.
1985		‘Thommo’ Dict. Aus. Swearing & Sex Sayings 14: B and D — Bondage and discipline.
1987		in Delacoste & Alexander Sex Work (1988) 51: I lucked out and found a B&D club that was hiring.
1987		Body Politic (Toronto) Jan. 24/3: I wish for all the..queens, queers, fist-fuckers, B&Ders, S&Mers, water sporters..—for these are our exotic fruits [Simes:DLSS].
a.1989		Women in Command 16 in Murray & Murrell Lang. Sadomasochism (1989) 34: Expert in H.D, C.P., B., W.S., TV’s welcome.
1999		Gaymart.com Queer Sl. in the Gay 90s 🌐 B & D – Bondage and discipline. A milder form of S & M which involves one partner being at least constrained.
2003		K. Cage Gayle 55/1: B&D (abbr.) bondage and discipline which, unlike S&M, does not necessarily include pain [Classified advertisements, to indicate a preference for this fetish].
2005		L. Redhead Rubdown [ebook] Fantasies like schoolgirl and light B and D are and extra twenty and Greek’s fifty.
2017		T. Spicer Good Girl Stripped Bare 59: Who in the House of Lords doesn’t indulge in sexual abuse? A dash of B&D, pip, pip, tally-ho!