Green’s Dictionary of Slang

(US) the slogan ‘find ’em, feel ’em, fuck ’em (or euph. as fool ’em) and forget ’em’, the axiom for macho US youth in its dealings with women; thus the metaphorical ‘club’ supposedly uniting those males who subscribe to such a philosophy; also occas. such a male; sometimes amplified to five Fs by adding ‘feed ’em’ after ‘find ’em’.

1922		Broadway Brevities Aug. 32: Find ’em, fool ’em and forget ’em — that's me!
1946		Mezzrow & Wolfe Really the Blues 218: The sharks was droppin’ shucks like the Yellow Kid, tryin’ to tighten her, and weavin’ the four F’s all ’round her.
1949		A.B. Hollingshead Elmtown’s Youth (1975) 316: They call themselves the Five F’s – ‘find ’em, feed ’em, feel ’m, f--- ’em, forget ’em’.
1953		Berrey & Van den Bark Amer. Thes. Sl. (2nd edn) 356.3: The four F’s, high-pressure romancing — find ’em, fool ’em, frig ’em, and forget ’em.
1962		(con. WWII) J.O. Killens And Then We Heard The Thunder (1964) 11: Jogy Grinder is a civilian – any lucky four-goddamn-F that’s laying up with your old lady and grinding her all night long while you’re away in the service.
1966		Harris & Freeman Lords of Hell 30: What a sportsman mean when he say weaving the four F’s is—you got to find you chick and you got to fool her and you got to frig her and forget her! [HDAS].
1970		(con. 1950s) H. Junker ‘The Fifties’ in Eisen Age of Rock 2 (1970) 102: The 4-F Club: findem, feelem, fuckem, forgetem.
1974		J. Lahr Hot to Trot 7: Melish, baby, the Four F’s are forever [...] Find ’em. Feel ’em. Fuck ’em. Forget ’em.
1986–7		Maledicta IX 194: This article and series devoted to sexual slang would be incomplete without some notice of catch phrases, both British and American: […] Four F: find, feel, fuck, forget.
[2003		www.thepantsman.com 🌐 As an African guy once told me in Lithuania: ‘Find it. Fuck it. Forget it.’].