mess with v.
(US)1. to become involved with, to use, to fool around with.
in Tarheel Talk (1956) 91: In this coast country [i.e. of N.C.] the peculiar word is ‘Mess.’ [...] A politician says ‘That fellow is “messing” (associating) with the Radicals.’ A hunter says ‘You better not “mess” with a wounded buck.’ [...] A lawyer says ‘What did you “mess” (interfere) with the matter for?’. | ||
Soldiers Three (1907) 5: Twas just my way, messin’ wid what was no business of mine. | ‘The God from the Machine’ in||
DN IV i 5: mess with, v. To associate with. ‘We don’t mess with those people.’. | ‘Lists From Maine’ in||
Barker II i: The crummiest broad on the outfit, an’ you have to get messed up with her! | ||
🎵 You done messed with my wife, you rascal, you! | ‘You Rascal You’||
Serenade to the Big Bird 139: There were courses in home-making and sewing [...] but the P.E.G. didn’t mess with them much. | ||
Far from the Customary Skies 325: Yuh think I’d be stupid enough to mess with jail bait? Huh? | ||
(con. 1930s) Man Walking On Eggshells 21: They ruled their part of the yard and nobody messed with them. | ||
Black Players 215: He’s got three Black women. But I don’t mess with them ’cause Black women will cause you more of a hassle. | ||
Runnin’ Down Some Lines 35: Cain’t be messin’ wid no ol’ pootbutt, some rookie. | ||
Corner (1998) 41: The two head for a row of tables where they can mess with a handful of battered board games. | ||
Hip-Hop Connection Jan.–Feb. 17: I saw this girl I once messed with. | ||
? (Pronounced Que) [ebook] ‘I’m only messin’ wit’ one cat. Cat named Rivera.’ [...] ‘He might be the only one you messin’ wit’, but who he messin’ wit’? | ||
Blacktop Wasteland 50: ‘I got this little piece I mess with’. |
2. to harass, to annoy, to interfere with.
see sense 1. | ||
Home to Harlem 198: There are no cops in Philly going to mess with this girl. | ||
Mules and Men (1995) 144: dealer: Well Ah got de cards. I can cheat if I want to and beat you anyway. big sweet: You mess wid dem cards and see if Ah don’t fill you full of looky-deres. | ||
Really the Blues 4: Mitter Foley [...] messed with the law some kind of way and got twenty years in Joliet. | ||
Teen-Age Mafia 5: Nobody messes with you. Nobody pushes you around. | ||
All Night Stand 41: Have you been messing with my daughter? | ||
(con. 1960s) Whoreson 276: The only ones I wouldn’t mess with were the Jews. | ||
Beano Comic Library No. 79 37: How dare he mess with one of my pupils! | ||
Yardie 10: Very few boys were foolish enough to mess with him. | ||
Experience 5: Because it messes with the head. | ||
(con. 1990s) in One of the Guys 61: ‘They got confrontations with the Slobs. They just be all, they always with them, messin’ with them’. | ||
Way Home (2009) 83: He [...] held no Muslim beliefs. He wore the skull cap just to mess with the guards. | ||
‘Soul Collection’ in ThugLit July-Aug. [ebook] [I]t served a purpose, warning this asshole not to mess with us. | ||
Out of Bounds (2017) 329: That must have really messed with Gabriel's head. | ||
Watergate 123: Magruder had sought [...] ways to mess with Muskie and his fellow Democratic candidates. |
3. to laugh at, to ridicule, to tease.
Campus Sl. Sept. 5: mess with – tease, joke with. | ||
Darnell Rock Reporting 3: ‘How was school?’ [...] ‘Okay except for the mass murders and the kangaroo in the lunchroom,’ Tamika said. ‘That’s good,’ Mr. Rock said. ‘Yo, Daddy, she’s messing with you again,’ Danell said. | ||
(con. 1986) Sweet Forever 23: I’m just messin’ with you, man. | ||
Crumple Zone 164: — I talked to your mum earlier. Now that’s a statement not to mess with. | ||
Londonstani (2007) 22: Ain’t nobody mess with us [...] Take some advice from me, don’t mess wid us. |
In phrases
to lose one’s potency, esp. through excess use of narcotics or alcohol.
Runnin’ Down Some Lines 179: Like you git a young man high. His thang git hard, den it go down. He jus’ drop entirely too many reds. Mess with nature. |
(orig. US black) to disturb or harm someone emotionally.
🎵 You were still in school when you had that fool who really messed your mind. | ‘Nineteenth Nervous Breakdown’||
Weigh-in 185: The men were bluffing and merely trying to mess with my mind. | ||
What’s Right? 26: He might mess with my mind and turn me into a freak. | ||
Pure Delights 76: He needed a diversion, a soft, sexy female diversion — one who didn’t resemble a big-eyed waif and who didn’t mess with his mind. | ||
Corner (1998) 139: My son done messed your little mind. | ||
Cincinnatti Mag. Nov. 17: But his coach tells him these people are just trying to mess with his mind. | ||
Atlanta Blues 194: ‘What are you gonna do?’ Johnny Lee said, sighing. ‘Mess with his mind. Do a number on him.’. |