Green’s Dictionary of Slang

1. a woman, prob. heterosexual, poss. ageing, who courts and indulges the company of male homosexuals.

1963		Sa[S] The kissoff was that when the dish comes in, she’s no wow at all but a fag hag with a sag.
1965		Guild Dict. Homosexual Terms 15: fag-hag (n.): A nonhomosexual female who likes consorting with homosexuals.
1976		Warren ‘Women Among Men’ in Levine Gay Men (1979) 229: The men were more likely to use the gay woman than the ‘fag hags’ for stigma evasion.
1982		Grandmaster Flash ‘The Message’ 🎵 Eating out of garbage pails / Used to be a fag hag.
1998		I. Welsh Filth 185: I can only stand there like a fag-hag outside the bogs of some nancy-boy meatpacking disco.
2000		Indep. Rev. 5: I don’t use the expression ‘fag hag.’ I think it’s demeaning and insulting to heterosexual women who have homosexual male friends.
2004		IOL News (Western Cape) 26 Sept. 🌐 Noticing the female tendency for fag-hag-dom the hypermasculine male figured ‘I’d have some of that’.
2012		C. Eble (ed.) UNC-CH Campus Sl. 2011.
2012		Independent 24 Jan. 36/1: The book's 18 essays cover many aspects of the gay world (fag hags, liposuction, ‘bears’).
2012		A. Prentice ‘The Break’ in Crime Factory: Hard Labour [ebook] So you hang with the lesos, Munro? Sort of makes you a male fag hag.
2021		J. Ellroy Widespread Panic 57: Fag hags, anonymous suck-ups to the stars.

2. a heterosexual man, irrespective of age, who prefers the company of homosexuals to that of his peers.

1983		R. Price Breaks 46: ‘Are you some kind of a fag hag?’ ‘I thought you had to be a woman to be a fag hag.’.
1994		G. Indiana Rent Boy 40: There’s always a group of middle-aged queens at the bar, whooping it up with the fag hag bartender.