Green’s Dictionary of Slang

cookie-pusher n.

also cookie-duster
[SE cookie + pusher; the cakes that such men are continually passing around such tea parties or that waitresses serve in cafés]
(US)

1. an ambitious, but lazy, man, esp. a government career man, a sycophant.

[US]Wash. Post 18 Jan. 1: Hugh Gibson, our minister to Finland, advocates chasing the tea hounds and cookie pushers out of the diplomatic service, but who, then would compete in the matrimonial market with foreign noblemen for our heiresses?
[US]J.T. Farrell ‘A Hell of a Good Time’ in Short Stories (1937) 203: These modern girls, they’re the real stuff, and they need the likes of what we used to be. Take my Mary, she always says she wouldn’t trade me for these cookie-dusters that try to sneak feels off her while she’s serving them lunch.
[US]Word Study May 2: State Department officials have long been called ‘cookie-pushers’ [W&F].
[US]S. Longstreet Straw Boss (1979) 280: He’s been sent by the cookie pushers in the State Department.
[UK]Indep. Rev. 1 Oct. 5: Already installed some oikish little cookie-pusher in my office.

2. a young man who errs on the ‘feminine side of life’ – tea parties, conversation, the niceties of dress and of gossip, art rather than sport etc; thus cookie-pushing n.

[US]Morn. Tulsa Dly World (OK) 15 Oct. 36/7: We are sorry to say that troop No. 24 brags of having two cookie pushers like Pete Fowler and Dan Corkin.
[US]M.C. McPhee ‘College Sl.’ in AS III:2 131: A student who spends much time in the society of the ladies is ‘a heavy-cake’ or ‘a tea hound’. He is given to ‘cookie-pushing,’ or ‘lounge-lizarding’.
[US]Weseen Dict. Amer. Sl. 178: [College] Cookie pusher – male student who seeks female companions; a tea hound.
[US]F. Eikel Jr ‘An Aggie Vocab. of Sl.’ in AS XXI:1 31: cookie pusher, n. ‘Male student at a co-ed college.’ [...] ‘pleasure-seeker; fashionable person; dandy, or dude; ladies’ man’.
[US]Wentworth & Flexner DAS.
[UK]P. Theroux London Embassy 73: They are often jocks who regard more thoughtful men as cookie-pushers.

3. a waitress.

[US]D. McCarthy Mossborn n.p.: Cookie pushers. A waitress [HDAS].
[US] in DARE.
[US]McCulloch Woods Words 38: Cookie pusher – a hasher.