Green’s Dictionary of Slang

1. a homosexual, usu. the passive partner, thus pillow-biting, homosexuality.

1985		B. Humphries Traveller’s Tool 19: Australia is swarming with raving shirt-lifters and pillow-biters.
1985		Tracks (Aus.) Aug. 5: This bloke is God. I bet he enjoys a quick buck and a fast fuck. He’s God because he hates date punchers, pillow chewers or faggots to some [Moore 1993].
1988		Age (Melbourne) 28 Apr. 37/1: We Australians have got a social conscience [...] Most of the shows I have seen have tackled king-size [...] problems such as [...] turps-nudging, poofterism and pillow-biting.
1993		K. Lette Foetal Attraction (1994) 199: The fact that blokes can get all revved up over daffodil-planting [...] without being labelled ‘pillow-biters’.
1997		M. Walters Echo 262: ’Course we didn’t share a sodding bed. I’m no pillow biter, and he’s no sausage jockey.
2001		M. Acito ‘LETTERS From CAMP Rehoboth’ XI:3 6 Apr. 🌐 Following that reasoning, and in the interest of being more specific, I suggested that he simply identify himself as a ‘pillow-biter’ or a ‘manhole inspector,’ as the case may be.
2005		P. Temple Broken Shore (2007) [ebook] Never forget those stewards, pillowbiters to a man. they’d come along those narrow passages and rub against my Harry.
2010		W. Ings ‘Trolling the Beat to Working the Soob’ in Int’l Jrnl Lexicog. 23:1 59: [D]erogatory terms like pillow muncher (receptive partner in anal sex), poo-pusher (dominant partner in anal sex), and Morobar (in reference to the chocolate covered confectionary; the dominant partner in anal sex).
2023		R. Milward Man-Eating Typewriter 144: There was a homo watering-hole [...] The Wincing Pillowbiter.

2. (US prison) one who has been subjected to homosexual rape.

2000

Other Side of the Wall: Prisoner’s Dict. July 🌐 Pillow Biter: Prisoner who is a rape victim. (N.Y.).

3. a general term of abuse, irrespective of actual sexual preference.

1993

B. Moore Lex. of Cadet Lang. 268: usage: ‘Come on, get up the ropes, you pillow biter!’.