Green’s Dictionary of Slang

1. the ‘passive’ or recipient person during copulation.

1888–94

‘Walter’ My Secret Life (1966) VI 1283: She was a most voluptuous fuckee. No amorous pranks or baudy tricks were too much for her.

2. one who is treated badly; one who suffers harm or punishment.

1975		E. Torres Carlito’s Way 42: If they’re gonna give me my druthers, I’d druther be a fucker than a fuckee.
1980		(con. 1966) W. Sherman Times Square 23: The mob took a cut from each machine. [...] ‘Ya wanna stay in business, you pay. You’re either the fuckee, the fucker, or you’re not in any kind of business.’.